My journey, a beginning

Why this blog? My journey as a client of sex-workers.

A little on my reasons for writing.

This article (originally from 6 March 2017 and adjusted slightly when republished on 31 March 2018) was a beginning for me — in the sense of talking publicly, and in a longer article format, about my experiences. The emotions, humour, sadness, loneliness, encounters and the nature of being a client of sex-workers.

I am not claiming any special experience, insights or right to speak. Although I am not new to seeing escorts, I am not suggesting my experience is the same as the experiences of anyone else, nor am I speaking on behalf of anyone else. My story is mine alone, with all the limits of my personal flaws, prejudices and emotional constraints.

(Note: This introduction post has had a little update on 31 March 2018, after a further 61-blog posts written over the year that followed the original launch of the this blog. Key themes haven’t changed much, but it is now, once again the first article, as I relaunch this platform. Welcome, or as the case may be, welcome back.)

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Deciding to start a blog.

I am a lonely middle-aged Australian. I started seeing primarily private escorts a little more than two years ago, and I have had the wonderful privilege to have been able to make a relatively large number of bookings during this period. That doesn’t make me an expert on anything, in fact the more I experience, the less I realise I actually know. Plus my mind changes all the time on what I think about this journey!

The articles that I intend to write are primarily personal experiences. Strange things, beautiful things, bad behaviour, good behaviour, the range of experiences, post booking melancholy, post booking joys, the challenges and joys of being a regular, falling in love, setting expectations and most of all, how I have felt while I have traveled upon this journey.

Beginnings as a client of escorts.

My actual entry as a client of sex-workers is boringly vanilla. I only admitted to myself later that it is a sort-of rolling mid-life-crisis. The event that happens commonly when what is left of one’s life is shorter than what is behind. In this moment one may find, as I did, that they are unhappy with where they find themselves and their experiences. Such a life change, is often a dramatic one, including the desire to grab hold of youth and rich experience, before the chance is gone for good. My actual ‘entry’ story is detailed more in ‘Becoming a Client’.

I knew less than zero about seeing escorts and the industry more broadly. I had no idea how to make an initial approach, the law, the etiquette. I was also overweight, sexually inexperienced and racked with stress from both the ‘secret life’ as well as other external factors in my life at the time.

Despite all of this, seeing sex-workers has been one of the best choices I ever made and has left me with exactly what I wanted, in the midst of a mid-life-crisis, the feeling that I had new experiences and memories that would stay with me. My journey has had amazing moments, challenging ones and I am still resolving many of the emotions. I also continue learning more about both the industry and being a decent human being, in this strange new ‘double-life’ of mine. In the year since I started this blog, I have also learned from the people, clients and sex-workers, who have engaged with me about it.

Purpose of this blog.

My intention with this blog is to write as topics come to mind (the initial year has seen a fairly large quantity of articles – that I am about to republish). I hope to explore topics and experiences of meaning and significance to me. This is part of my process of working out what I have learned (and still have yet to learn or experience), internalizing it and seeing what others think about these same topics. If any of it is of interest, makes you think, or want to share a comment, then that is a great outcome.

I reiterate what I said on the ‘about’ page, that no personal information, secrets or identifiable information is going to be published here, without the full and complete approval of anyone mentioned! However I am going to get into complex emotions and the best and worst of my experiences and observations – warts and all (with suitable time and fact changes to ensure everyone’s protection, including my own).

I hope that you enjoy the blog, share your comments and let me know what you think. In addition to where I started this journey, I may also add some guest contributors, who have offered to write some future content as well. I hope that you find it interesting.

Xx – SP 6 March 2017 (updated – 1 May 2017 and again on 31 March 2018).

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3 thoughts on “My journey, a beginning”

  1. I absolutely adore the fact that you are writing this, Percie! I hope that you achieve what you hoped and outlined here, and more. And that your writing also touches others and helps them reflect on and make the most of their own experiences and opportunities, wherever they are in life.

    One thing that has become clear to me as an escort is similar to what you have written as a client. There are, certainly, commonalities between escorts and clients, and general rules of etiquette that suit nearly everyone very well.

    However, at the end of the day, we are dealing with human beings and intimacy. Every client is different. Every escort is different. Assumptions are necessary but not always accurate.

    Sometimes I will read another escort tweeting a “rule”, her version of “how it is”. She might say, “a client should never do xyz” or, “An escort will always value a over b”. And sometimes, I totally agree! And other times I think “Hm. She’s not speaking for me right now.”

    There’s no escaping the complexity of human relating, in intimacy, or in business. Respectful listening and clear communication are definitely helpful skills to smooth the path.

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    1. Thank you Lady Skye. I agree with your comment and pretty much every other comment you have made.

      In particular, I have a problem with ‘rules’ being described as though they apply as some law or piece of knowledge that applies to all escorts or all clients. We all seek an individual road, and yet a lot of the people calling for that will then make a statement about how things should be for all involved – a rule.

      I am hoping, and trying my best to make sure that I do not make that mistake in this blog. I guess even this comment is cyclical – a rule that we shouldn’t impose rules on others. I think since consistence of argument and logic may be missing. I guess I will have to just stick to opening up topics and making some statement on my own experience. Without comments like yours, I would just be shouting into the void. Thank you for your continued engagement and dialogue on these topics. Xx SP

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